The person in this relationship that is detrimental is not the author. The person that is detrimental is the person that is in a relationship with the author. The other person expected the author to change and that is not fair. The author will no longer think that the problem is him/her.
- The author is blaming her ex for the breakup because he/she wasn’t reliable, wouldn’t make decisions or would be there 100% of the time.
- The author is blaming her ex for the breakup because he/she didn’t put in the effort in the relationship, or at least the emotional labor.
- It’s not me, it’s a hundred percent you. It’s the way you assume it was my job to cater to you in this relationship and never to reciprocate. Change my plans to fit your schedule, answer the phone on the first ring when you rarely even look at yours.
“No, I am not going to sit here and pretend the problem was me when very clearly it was you.”